Stop trying to win people over by only being "Nice." Be honest as well.

Besides being a kind person become a truthful person as well. Together they help you create real and deep connections with other people.

Stop trying to win people over by only being "Nice." Be honest as well.

My parents always taught me to be nice. Which was well-intended. It is a great start in conversation, using some basic respect and kindness. It helped me ease into building relationships. Maybe you, and certainly a lot of other people learned to always be nice as well.

But there is a big problem with this.

Being nice and polite alone doesn’t cut it. Kindness is a great ‘how’, but not a goal in itself. The warm feelings, deep interactions, and great bonds you want to form are. There are a lot of moments kindness alone doesn’t get you that.

But I know, you learned to be friendly, and unthreatening - to not be disrespectful. But that should not get in the way of being overrun, taken advantage of, or creating deep connections.